Tuesday, May 6, 2014

Iggy by the Shore


I don't write stuff like this too often, but sometimes Iggy Azalea wears a Scarface leotard/tanktop and it inspires one. 

A - Operational Definition 

Queer is a word I learned early on. "queerbait" was a favorite (not so) term of endearment used by my brother when we would play games when I was little. Growing up the term was mostly closely associated with homosexuality. "Queer" people in my adolescent years just meant someone gay. It was an especially fun day at recess when the boys would gather and decide it was a fun idea to play "Smear the Queer," a game that involves tackling/pummeling/disemboweling a boy who had a ball. If you caught the ball, then you became the Queer and everyone's job was to attack you until you gave it up.  

This in itself is a fascinating object lesson. The desire to both destroy and be the object of difference is a tension that most people live in their whole lives. This, however, wasn't a game to dwell on this philosophical tensionso much as an excuse for boys to get together and give control to their most primal instincts of smashing into each other. 

The glory of a college education is that understandings become larger and worlds open up. Queer Theory, the definition of queer came to mean a lot more in my college years when, outside of being tackled for carrying a ball, "Queer" came to mean aberrational and not just homosexual. The Golden Girls is a queer show, not because it is about gay people but because it is about alternative families and lifestyles. It is oppositional to the television programs centered on nuclear families that espouse traditional sexual mores and exhort the joys of suburban life. Homosexuality and Queerness are tied closely together because being gay is deviance; options of a nuclear family, traditional Christian values, Sundays at the ballpark, etc. are outside of that realm. By sheer value of existing and experiencing same-sex desires, homosexuals are deviant and cut off from mainstream cultural operations.  As our society grows more open, this diminishes, but in many ways queerness is only normalized in larger urban centers. Take your same-sex partner and Asian baby to a baseball game in rural America and you will be stared at. 

Being gay, despite our striving forward, is still weird, deviant, different, odd - queer. 

But queerness isn't limited to that. I'm a double queer because yes, I like boys, but I also go to church, I would rather read Joyce than watch Andy Cohen, and I generally despise and mistrust any force that is able to exert power over me: governments, gravity, etc.  

B - Islands 

An interesting spin on the classic queer saga, is the push-pull of different subsets that strive toward or away from queerness.  

For instance, in Boystown there are groups of guys who have somehow created their own islands of gayness. They operate under the assumption that while they are gay, they aren't queer. They're gay but not THAT gay. I tell people about this concept and it doesn't make sense to someone not in the bubble, but these people very much exists. These guys are generally very masculine, attractive, and in positions of social power through work or general social connections. In many ways it reminds me of Orwell's Animal Farm, how the pigs take over leadership but are then subsumed into the world of men and betray all the other animals in the farm. Four legs good, two legs bad inverts itself into two legs good, four legs bad as the pigs learn to walk on two legs and start to subjugate the other animals on the farm. Likewise, these gay men have turned their back on larger issues in the gay community and see themselves as above and removed. They have successfully merged into larger society ("People see me and don't even know I'm gay!"). There is no concern for the LGBTQ youth who have to walk the streets of Boystown because they have no homes to go to. When a chubby guy comes into a bar, they don't see a fellow gay person, but a guy who should work out so he's more attractive.  

This isn't limited to gay men, but I find it the most upsetting and uncomfortable in my own community, because we have been ostracized and we should know better. This practice, however, is in every sect and slice of society. It's in the gifted artist who majors in accountancy so he can merge into the universal rat race; it is in the heterosexual couple who is afraid to break up because they have been together 3 years and it is "time to get married."  

It is a human impulse is to drive toward this great beacon of sameness and uniformity. There is something terrifying and also awesome about thousands of soldiers moving in unison, perfect goosesteps rising in time with the sharp tap of boots. It is the desire to find the boy, queer, with the ball and crush him. 
And yet oppositional to this are the other kind of islands; these are the ones who consciously seek a boat and a captain to drive them to a place of isolation and difference. This movement has a number of symbols, from Lady Gaga, to John Lennon. But these are sects of people who strive to drift off from the mainstream, the great continent of grey and white uniformity, that society represents.  

Every high school and college student goes through this. Even the most cookie cutter of conservative Catholics discovers Objectivism at some point and decides that there is another reality, another plane of existence that they have not yet experienced. These feelings of elation drive them to pockets of likeminded individuals in which the merits of libertarianism are discussed and their true difference is realized.  
Alternatively, it can happen to a group of vegans who decide that they will taken the mantle of diet difference. This I find most fascinating in that it also cloaks the wearer in a sort of martyrdom. "Oh, you don't have a vegan menu... I supposed I'll just eat after the party."  

Either way, this tenacious desire for otherness tends to die off in the mid-twenties. People who you thought were hippie/rock alternative are suddenly married with two kids. The leftist who chained herself to a flagpole in college is suddenly voting Republican and reading C.S. Lewis for her Bible Study.  

The movement, the masses fade off and most drift back to the continent of grey. They don't often make the trip across the sea to the island in its totality. A few waves experienced and a shark spotted in the deeper waters are enough to bring them back to shore. They drift back with the gays who have created their own inner-model of sameness. 

But no one would get out in this water if it weren't for the captains on the shore who really ARE trying to break off the island. These people are rabid, crazy, and completely different. They aren't just queer, they are Queer. Their very being exudes separateness, divergence. 

They are people like James Joyce, John Lennon; thinkers like Einstein, Copernicus, and Steve Jobs. And maybe like 

C - Queen Iggy 

Last summer a song was released called "Work." My boss played it and it was funny and catchy. Then she showed us the video. 

What I had assumed was aAfrican-American woman trying to be like Nicki Minaj was actually a 5'10" blond Australian woman. In the video she rides a bicycle in Louboutin heels around a trailer park. Further diving into her background showed she was Australian but came to the US at 16 to make her way in hip-hop by cleaning hotel rooms. Her first big hit was called Pu$$y. In one video called, "Murda Bizness" she forces her fictional daughter into a beauty pageant. Her follow up single to "Work" was called "Bounce" and featured her in full Indian garb dancing Bollywood style as midi, videogamish music throbs in the chorus.  

I had liked "Work" - I loved Iggy Azalea. There were two things very clear from these videos.  

a - She gave zero f@#ks 
b - Gurl was queer 

Of course, not queer in the homosexual way, but in the I am different and I fit into no particular mold whatsoever kind of way.  

Even looking at other so-called symbols of difference like Lady Gaga and Nicki Minajshe stands out as actually different. Lady Gaga is a white girl with a good voice who sings pop songs. She wears meat suits for attention. It's fun and different and there's a reason that people who don’t fit in identify with her. Likewise, Nicki is an African-American who raps and performs hip-hop music. She makes some weird music videos and wears colorful wigs - it's kind of different and fun. 

But Iggy... What is this glorious mess? 

D - Case Study: "New Bitch" 

A lot of female pop artists make songs about female empowerment. "Roar" and "Brave" come to mind over the past year. Lady Gaga's "Do What You Want" is an interesting play on the loss of female/individual autonomy within different contexts. These all speak to the plight of women, the desire to be stronger in spirit and carve out a special and unique place within a dominantly masculine culture. This concept is something that resonates with a plurality of different social groups, from women, to gays, to chubby boys in grade school who would rather take dance lessons than go to football practice. 

One of Iggy's ballad's on her new album is called "New Bitch." The song is about finding a man who's rich then talking trash to the other women who you have replaced in his affections. Within the song Iggy sets herself up to be successful and powerful in the first verse, however, the song is structured around her relationship to a man. The song isn't about female empowerment, but it's about power. Iggy has chosen a subordinate position because she wants a man. She defends her position and she doesn't compromise. One gets the idea that a conversation between Miss Azalea and her man in this song would go like this: 

Her "Daddy": "Baby, you want a Lexus or a Ferrari for your birthday?" 
Iggy: "Or? Boy, you better buy me one of each." 

The song isn't an anthem for women but it's not about cowing to a man. It's a weird convergence of feminism, traditional gender construction, and empowerment. The phrase, "I'm his new bitch" isn't about her relationship to her man, it's about her telling everyone else who she is. She appropriates the vulgar term our society uses for women and claims it as her own.  

Iggy: "Call me a bitch? Yeah, I am and I'm the one running this show." 

Is this song a positive influence on young women?  

I have no idea, but it's catchy and it makes me want a new boyfriend so I can be his New Bitch.  

E - Oh Captain, My Captain 

In the crowd at Iggy Azalea's Chicago show last week, I looked around and saw a pretty odd cross-section of the Chicago population. There were Hip Hop fans, hipsters, and copious homosexuals. For some reason Iggy has spoken to all of us. How can a female vegan hipster converse with an uptight, well-quaffed homosexual? I guess you put on Iggy's The New Classic and see. 

The group I went with was in and of itself bizarre. I was the Midwestern Homo, a graduate advisor friend from rural Michigan was our leader, and my engineering friend from Houston rounded out the group. 
Something about Iggy's queerness, the difference conveyed in her weird, gravely vocals and throbbing club and hip hop beats draws us together. The manifestation of a tall, blond Australian singing American hip hop is a nucleus that pulls a number of us in. Something about the hit, the crunch of bone and skin and being the queer that is smeared is tied to her difference, her willingness to stand out, be the target and represent something unique, different, queer. 

To paraphrase an interview I read on Iggy, someone asked her what it was like growing up. She said it was awkward - people made fun of her for rapping. They made fun of her rhymes and her love of hip hop music. She basically ran away at 16 to pursue a life that dreamed of in America in the epicenter of the hip hop scene.  

It is a variation of the American Dream, the longing for a place that will offer our difference opportunity. America has symbolized this to people of different religions, ethnicities, creeds, and colors. But even when we arrive it is our tendency to forget our longing, our desire for our difference to be upheld. The masses subsume us and our colorful Scarface leotards turn to gray. It is the struggle to keep our head high and recognize our differences and remember that dream that disconnected us from the masses in the first place. 

It is difficult to be different. In college and high school we push away, we dance to Lady Gaga in her meat costume and celebrate being a New Bitch. But the party starts to die down. Our friends through marriage, career, and children pull toward the mainland and it is our impulse, the natural flow to join them. There are only a few with boats along the shore, calling us to remember difference, isolation. They are the queers who keep holding the ball when the world strives to smear them. 

Iggy seems to be one of those with her boat ready. Gurl doesn't paddle herself, but she is on her way to new and exciting lands. She represents that difference that we all strive toward but have beaten back. She is queer and strong and has cut out a place in a subculture that is usually not receptive to people of her color, gender, or nationality. But she stands tall and raps for all of us who have forgotten what that striving, what that dream is like. 

This whole exercise is probably putting too much creative emphasis on the songwriter of a song called "Pu$$y", but I think what Iggy Azalea represents is something that is more universal than one hip hop artist in the early 21st century. Artists like her will continue to arise, lead, and remind us of the pulse and bang  of queerness. They hold the boats and remind us that there is a shimmering world out there that we may just be too afraid to explore. 

Thursday, April 10, 2014

#thetuneup

There are very few things I know less about than cars. I don’t know what a carberator does. I just misspelled it because I don’t know what it is and it confuses me.

The only things that I do know are that you need to get oil changes when you go the number of miles they put on that little sticker, and that every 75000 miles at the oil change place they tell you about a bunch of other crap you need to get done: flushes and filters and belts – oh my!

Well, Shmu, my beautiful Buick, just crossed over into 80K territory and needed a little tuck and lift. I had gone to my parent’s auto garage and they suggested a bunch of stuff, so I took the estimates they gave me and handed them to a garage in Chicago.

“Do this stuff.” Was basically the entire conversation that was had when I dropped my car off.

I didn’t have anything that needed a car for two weeks, so I told them that they could take their time and call me when it was ready. I kind of assumed “take your time” meant like a week or so, but it came up on 10 days and I hadn’t heard anything about Shmu. Part of me thought that the Eastern European man who took my keys had sold Shmu for parts and headed to the French Riviera… Well, Shmu couldn’t get him that far, but it might have gotten him a nice weekend in Branson.

So I call the garage on Tuesday. The conversation goes like this:

“Hi, I dropped off my car a while ago and hadn’t heard anything.”
“Ok, it’s with George. He’s off today. Call tomorrow.”
“I need it by Friday.”
“Sure.”

The next day I called and George took the phone.

“Oh, hey. Yeah, I’ve been meaning to call you.”
Ya think? You’ve had my car for 10 days…
“Well, we were checking it out and the brakes are SHOT. I don’t know how you got around. They should have gone out a long time ago – they’re just caked in rust. It’s a miracle you made it.”

I think I’ve had my car serviced like 3 times in my life. And EVERY time I take it in the brakes are “shot” and I have been freewheeling on the jagged edge of death’s sharp precipice. According to autogarages I am the most reckless and blessed survivor of rusty brakes on the entire planet.

He then goes on to reiterate that I should be dead and that the brakes need replaced and Blah.

And I’m like, “Just whatever. I need it by Friday.”
“No problem! I’ll fix it and give you a call Thursday night.”
“Okay, well I have to get it first thing Friday morning. You open at 7?”
“Yep. It’ll be ready!”

Thursday came and went and I was 0% surprised that I didn’t get a call. I had already decided, though, that I was going to go in, demand my car and leave no matter how much rust was on my brakes and how loudly I was knocking on death’s door.

Friday I made all my preparations. I packed my bag so I could shower at the gym, I walked 5 blocks in the rain to get to the garage and I crossed the threshold into the little lobby.

“Hi, I’m here for my car.”
“George is driving it around.”

What? It’s 7 in the morning. Why is he joy riding in my car?

10 minutes pass.

George enters and is like, “Yeah, your car’s done! It’s just getting washed!”

It was pouring rain outside. There was no reason for my car to be getting washed. Yes – it was nice, but I also had to be at work at 8:30 because I had a conference call with one of my customers.

George sits down and then the tiny Eastern European man rushes in.

“Oh! Your car! Idda big mess! You coulda die in da car!”
“Yeah… Okay.”
“Looka da brake. You come look.”

We go into the garage and he picks up a metal object that looks a brake with some rust on it.

“You crazy boy! You coulda die in da car with da break! You aska oddur stuff but why fix dat when your whole car?!” He then pantomimed a giant explosion.

Always. On. The. Verge. Of. Death.

Of course I can’t be a bitch in real life, so the whole time I’m laughing and pretending that this was really funny and I was glad to be exchanging jokes when I was getting later and later for work.

Well Mr. Eastern European pats me on the back and disappears again. George goes over my GIANT bill and tells me about all the free stuff he gave me.

“Your air filter was a mess. Took care of that for free.” He nods at me like he’s my great benefactor.

And I’m like, “Where’s my car?”

To be honest, had it been a Saturday morning, I would have enjoyed talking to these people. George was nice. Eastern European guy was a delight and loved using his hands to tell every detail of his stories.

BUT I WAS LATE. And I specifically told them I had to pick it up first thing.

So by this time it’s almost 7:30, a full half hour after me getting there. The time is ticking away and I was on Twitter trying not to have a panic attack.

Then this smug douchecock with a Prius marches in.

“Huhey, guys!” He says tipping his tweed hat. “Is my car ready?”

At that moment his Prius emerges from the car wash and picks him up.

“Thanks!” he said smugly. He tipped his hat again and goes out to pick up his car. After waiting 30 seconds.

It’s creeping on 745 when Shmu finally lumbers out of the car wash. I barely acknowledge Eastern European guy’s: “Gooda luck, young man!” As I jump in the car and peel out towards home.

I have this awful way of making the worst possible decisions that I think will save me time. For instance, this day, I cut through the back roads and got to Broadway. Turning left off of Broadway in the mornings is tough, so I figure I’ll take a left at the light a block early and use the side streets.

Well, I forgot that there is a school a block from me and pull onto my street behind a giant bus. The bus is stopped literally a block from the school.

“Who the eff gets picked up a block from school?!”

I was seething when I see two women drag a child that was roughly 2 years old out of the house. Any other time this kid would have been adorable, but it was in puffy coat, could barely walk, and the two women refused to carry it. This led to about a 30 minute walk from the house to the bus, which is a distance of about 15 feet.

The snail child and his loving parents get to the bus and I think it’s over, when I see that mama snail drags the kid up the stairs. They disappear inside the bus for a good minute when I realize she is actually walking the kid to his seat.

What service!

The mama jumps off the bus and then the bus drives the 1/3 of a block to the stop sign.

It is then that I realize the road in front of the school is closed.

No slow zone.
No school zone.
Closed.
No way to get around it.

At this point, I don’t even know how it could get worse. That is until I almost ran over a mom and her kids because I was trying to turn back onto Broadway to go around the block so I could get back home.

All said and done, the usual 4 minute drive from the autoshop to my place took a good 20 minutes.

The car worked great though. And the only near deaths were the hordes of school children that got between me and my apartment.

My Twitter (kind of) Explained

In the past couple months I’ve discovered Twitter. And it is amazing. Funny people post stuff all the time, my friends and I have conversations, and, unlike Facebook, only like 10 people follow me, so I can post as much stupid stuff as I want.

One of the things I loved posting about is my stupid conversations at work. For instance, this week my coworker brought up the movie Congo. I said I hadn’t seen it, which led to her sending me 2 clips from the movie over lunch.

GOODGRAVYITISTHEMOSTGLORIOUSMOVIEEVER!

In the climactic scene angry apes are attacking people, then a smarter ape with a cool wristband saves someone. This all devolves into one of the humans shooting the apes with lasers and a volcano erupting!!!

ERUPTING!

How did I not know of this film?! On a scale of ridiculousness this movie is an 11. This makes Vin Diesel hurtling through space across an overpass in Fast and Furious 6 look like the scene from a Meryl Streep Oscar movie.

Anyway, during my watching of the movie my coworker pinged me something like “There is something beautiful and haunting about lasers and primates on screen together.”

This is the kind of thing I post on Twitter. There is no other Internet void where you can post drivel like this and I am enamored.

Also, as a spin off of a ridiculous conversation at work, I have proclaimed April as Cake History Month. The main reason is that my coworker and I think cake is better than pie and pie gets a whole day in March! A day for a stupid pie food.

In protest I joked that I was going to make the entire month of April Cake History Month in protest of Pie Day. I didn’t really take this seriously until on two separate occasions at the end of last month I had random friends say, “Tedd, that Nicki Minaj Awareness Month thing was great. I’ll always remember that.”

This fed my ego enough to treat my 9 followers (Yeah, I said ten earlier… I inflated the numbers) to Cake History Month. A month dedicated to made up facts about Cakes.

So basically, if you want to read quotes from the movie Congo or read fake facts about cakes, then my Twitter is the one to follow.

This may also be the reason that when I was home last weekend my mom says to me, “Tedd, I don’t understand your Facebook. I just don’t get it.”

Mother, if there is anyone responsible for this mess it’s you.

#thefamilythattweetstogether
#dadwouldthinkimfunny?

#cakehistorymonth

Tuesday, March 18, 2014

Montage

#1 Workouts

For Lent I decided I was going to commit to going to the gym and being better at being a fit human being. Yes, this is actually starting after St. Patrick's Day as I can't actually be expected to not eat Shamrock Shakes. That's absurd.

But as part of my process, I got this pre-workout supplement. As far as I can tell it makes men who want a “good pump” turn into menopausal women. Now all I do is sweat all the time and have massive mood swings whenever the 3557907g of caffeine wear off at 7:30 a.m. That being said, I am very awake when I work out. I just hope I keep ovulating normally.

#2 Pretty People Win at Everything!

I was hanging out with some friends this past weekend and one of my friends ran into an EXTREMELY hot guy at a trendy bar. EXTREMELY hot guy knew him and says, “Well, I see you're starting to hang out with the right people and climb the social ladder.”

No, he wasn't watching a CW Drama; this was a real-life gay man in his late 20s who said this.

Also, important to note is this conversation took place at a bar that was having a shower/underwear party.

I heard this, three drinks deep and I say, “That guy sounds like a terrible person.”

I thought it was a pretty objective viewpoint.

Not so. My other friend turned to me and says, “Tedd, you're being kind of a bitch.”

Yes. Yes in this situation I am the bitch. I guess if I had more abs and a chiseled face then I could get away with more judgement. See why Lent has me working on #1.

#3 I'm Not Quitting My Day Job

I went on a date with a guy and he says to me, “You're really cute. You could, like, be a model.” An expansive pause followed, which was concluded with, “You wouldn't make much.”

I'm giving the guy the benefit of the doubt, but you should bookend a compliment with a weird pause and then seemingly contradictory statement.

“You smell great.” (PAUSE) “My sinuses are completely clogged.”

“Your smile could stop traffic.” (PAUSE) “Did that raggity coyote just walk into that intersection?”

I think they guy meant that modeling is a rough career and no one makes it. Also, people who actually look like models are terrible people (see #2). And I don't want to spend that much time on #1 – Lent's 40 days, people. By the time you take out Shamrock Shake season it's a cool two weeks. In all fairness, I could probably model Snuggies. Or Doritos. Let's go with Doritos.

#4 I Wrote a Book Have I mentioned that 1000 Times Yet?

The best part about me writing a book, aside from the $300 I made, is this picture. Are gay men shallow? Just ask the torso books flanking mine in the bestseller list. To be fair, the guy on #68 finally met the right people and has been climbing the bestseller ladder.




#5 Still Got It

I've officially given up on dating. I don't mean this in a dramatic, “I'll never find love, pity me!!” kind of way. I mean, it's exhausting and feels like work. I want to just relax and enjoy my time, not cram it full of dates. I'm also not really in the mood to do anything serious. And I, like Kelly Clarkson, I don't really hook up.

That being said, I was on Tinder... Yes. It's terrible. For those of you who don't know, Tinder allows millenials to be as shallow as possible whilst dating. You are shown people in your Facebook network and get to swipe left “No, thanks” or right, “I would date that (read: I would bang that).” I had been on it an entire month and not a single person had messaged me. Well, my friend Joe's friend (follow me people) just broke up with his b/f. This guy was on Tinder, we matched. I wasn't hitting on him, but I sent him a message. Something like:

“Hey, is Joe still a jerk at work?”

Response: “Haha. Yes.”

I don't like to read between the lines, but this guy's over-the-top interest in me is embarrassing.

This, yet again, reminds me of an exchange my friend had with a girl while we were in high school. I hadn't turned gay yet and he was trying to set me up:

Friend: “Would you date Tedd Hawks?”
Girl: “Totally! He just needs a different personality.”

#6 Airplane:

I was on an airplane and have no stories. They were the two greatest flights of my life.

#7 Haircut:

The haircut was not so amazing. I was getting my locks lopped off a few days ago and had a male barber. He was straight (!) but he had a way of starting conversations that was completely non sequitur:

“How do you want it cut?”
“4 on the sides and back – little off the top.”
“I totally broke my guitar yesterday.”

Wait what?

The guitar convo went on as if I had been the one who loved guitars.

“I got this great GUITAR BRAND here and then went to this thrift shop and almost bought this one guitar. You know. You know what I'm talking about.”
“No, I don't.”
“Well, last Halloween my girlfriend and I went as Ash and Pikachu for Halloween.”

Wait..weren't we just talking about thrift shop guitars?


#8 This entry is over.

Saturday, March 8, 2014

Planes and a Little about Thunderdome

2 Stories about Planes

I’ve blogged about airplanes before. To recap:

-       I hate other people and their conversations in confined spaces
-       If I’m reading a book, regardless of location, you should leave me alone

On trip one I was sitting by myself and reading Bossypants. The book isn’t that good, but I made a goal to try and finish it by the end of the flight, so I was chunking text like it was my job.

Usually when you encounter an airplane conversationalist, it’s in the first 10 minutes that they ruin your whole flight. Sitting next so someone offers the perfect opportunity to make meaningless commentary about the plane:

“This is a PLANE.”
“I hope they don’t charge $500 for PeaNUTS!”
“Can you believe that check-in line?”
“Where you going?”

Never it is an attractive or interesting person, either. It’s always some complete and total Schlubbub.

Schlubbub \shlub-bub \ (noun): 1. A person of great, overbearing blandness. 2. Someone that would order salad at KFC. 3. One who likes to discuss their lives on planes.

In this case, however, it was a dormant schlubbub. This guy waited until we were about 1.5 hours into the flight before he says to no one in particular:

“Uggghhhh.”

I threw a quick glance to my left (I was against the window.) and realized the other woman in the seat with us was sleeping. The man talking was between myself and the woman and roughly 900 years old.

I immediately went back to my book.

“Huuuummm-uuuugghhhhh. These seats.”

Oh no…actual verbiage.

Then he said: “Where you going?”

Sunnuvabitch.

“Chicago.” I said.

“Me too.”

Our plane was expected to land at O’Hare, so this was a good thing for both of us.

Another pause followed this exchange, which led me to lift my book up slowly and continue to read. I got in one word before:

“I was in ‘Nam, you know.”

There was nothing left for me to do but put down the book and listen in rapt attention. Had I done anything else it would have bordered on Canadian activity. As an American we’re obligated to listen to veterans say ANYTHING, especially old ones!

“Why…are…you…going to…Chicago?” I asked dejectedly, my goal of finishing my mediocre book drifting out the double-paned window.

“Well…,”

What followed was a long monologue about him and his war buddies and how they’re all on the verge of death. I tried really hard to engage him, throwing in lines like, “I was just visiting my friends, too.” And “Yes.” He continued to drone on, eventually turning the monologue into an existential point about life and death and war and ending with a gruff, “You know?”

“Yes.”

This dramatic point seemed to indicate the end of our exchange, so again, I turned myself, very awkwardly and slowly, to stare forward. I threw one side-eyed glance to see if he was talking again before, again, very slowly lifting my book to cover my face. I read three words before he says:

“But friendship, you know…”

A second monologue followed, which I didn’t really pay attention to. My mind drifted to the weekend previously when I had been at a party. A girl had been there who brought a bunch of hula hoops. I don’t know why either.

So again, the guy wraps up.

“…And that is the meaning of life.”

“Yes.”

Again, I turned and started on my book. This time, it was to undisturbed peace, as the woman on the other side of the man had stirred and I realized that it was his wife.

They exchanged some banter and I realized that I would still be annoyed as a point of conversation, so I quickly put in headphones and pretended to sleep.

I’m an anti-American dick.

Story 2:

Recently on a flight to Minnesota, I sat in the middle seat. I thought I may get lucky and sit alone, but was soon joined by Middle-aged-mom Kathy Griffin and Overweight Illini Alum.

The Illini Alum was about my age, so we started talking about being tall. (See previous comment about how airline banter is THE WORST.) We were talking about seats and being tall when all of a sudden Middle-aged-mom KG jumped in.

“You boys from Chicago?”

I swear this woman thought she was on a talk show. Her voice was a shout for no particular reason and she kept looking at us raising her eyebrow and winking as if we were her guests and audience.

“Yeah,” we said.

“Oh boy! Minnesota! Let me tell ya! What are you two going to Minneapolis for?”

We both said we had friends that we were visiting.

“Well,” she said emphatically. “Don’t let them take you in a truck on the ice!”

This lady evidently had really strong feelings about trucks driving on ice. Well, I take that back, it served as a kind of twist ending when she, at the conclusion of her ranting, mentioned that it is find to drive on the ice this time of year BUT don’t’ do it in March… Because… Both of us said we were also planning trips in March?

I know I sound snarky (as always) but this woman is one of my favorite types of people. She is a middle-aged mother, with liberal leanings, who thinks that she’s cool. She also thinks that no one knows things she doesn’t know.

“Cats have tails, do you believe it?!”

This was most prevalent in her long monologue about Jesse Ventura and his governorship of MN. She started many of her bullet points with questions with very obvious answers:

“There was no public transit, can you believe it?”

Yes, ma’am. Minneapolis doesn’t have a very centralized population and there are lakes everywhere. I’ve been there once and know they have a rail to the airport but I can see how service to the entire metropolitan area would be difficult. I’m not an idiot.

“And you know people drive on the lakes in April – and they crash through! Can you believe it!”

Yes, ma’am – people are morons.

She did tell us interesting facts about the train generating revenue and how Jesse Ventura just did whatever he wanted in office.

This, of course, all linked back to her trucks-on-ice-lake obsession because Jesse just made people pay for the city services if they crashed through the ice.

After a solid 40 minutes of MN history, politics, and central planning discussion. She turned to her magazine.

I thought that this was the conclusion, but then she turned to me:

“You ever read this? It’s a great magazine!”

I confirmed I hadn’t read it, which led to – “Read this one! Read it!”

She had four copies of the magazine, so she basically shoved the one down my throat before grabbing another.

“You’ll just love it!” she said.

I started looking at the magazine, when overweight Illini alum jumped in.

“I’m going to see my college buddies,”’ he said.

2-for-1! How much did I love this flight?! Seriously though, if it had been any longer than an hour, I might have murdered someone.

“I’m going to visit friends, too,” I said.

“I just got back from a visit to Texas. I was doing a location inspection. It was fine, but the guy there…” He gives me this look like, “you know what I’m sayin’?”

I had no idea what he was sayin’.

“Well the guy is,” he lowers his voice, “gay” regular voice resumed “and just….” The guy threw up his hands.

“Oh brother,” I said. “Tell me about it.”

I’ve also mentioned this another blog about this trip, but this was the excursion of everyone thinking I was straight.

The guy went on to talk about how this guy was annoying – I’m not sure how this was about being gay because he seemed like an ordinary, run-of-the-mill douchecock without his sexuality involved – and that he couldn’t wait to get out of Texas.

This all was interrupted by middle-aged-mom KG sighing and groaning as she read her magazine.

“Uck.”
“Do you believe it!”
“HA!”

By the time the plane landed I thought I was going to murder everyone. Luckily, my friend was waiting and I got as far away from the airport as possible.

I sincerely hope overweight Illini alum talked to me about his friends. “I met this really cool STRAIGHT guy on the plane. He liked vagina and everything!”

My Intersection: Beyond Thunderdome

I live near this really busy street in Chicago. I’m on a sidestreet, however, so the traffic situation is a little weird.

Basically, if you get to this intersection as a pedestrian and the light has turned red, you are forced to stand in the cold/heat/whatever awful Chicago weather for the next 4 minutes.

4 minutes at a stoplight isn’t a regular 4 minutes. It’s not like 4 minutes of Breaking Bad or 4 minutes making out in Roscoe’s. This is a grueling, awkward 4 minutes as more and more people get to the intersection, as cars pass, as people try to sprint across the street to avoid standing any longer in stoplight purgatory.

If you live in my neighborhood you know this. You spot the locals by the dead sprint they take off in any time the light turns to the white man to signal its okay to cross. I’ve literally, sprinted, full-tilt sprinted, from a block away to try and get across this street.

At one point the other day I was walking along aimlessly and I heard a scuffle. I looked up to see a woman in a dress and heeled boots, carrying some sort of pretentious music instrument, taking off like she was in the Olympic time trials.

Rather than think this is funny or odd, I immediately see her as a rival and enemy. The sidewalks are snowy. She has a giant instrument case that blocks half the sidewalk.

She better get the f$%^k out of my way.

I’m not always a monster, however. The other morning I was crossing and this guy got 1/3 of the way across the street. He turned to go back because a car was starting to turn into the intersection.

I never talk to strangers in public, but I turned to this guy and was about to say:

“You gotta make this light, dude. It takes forever.”

When he shook off whatever fear had him in its grip and started sprinting the rest of the way through the intersection.

He must have been a local.